Putting Your Health First
- It’s okay to be ‘selfish'. Migraines make you tired, even when you aren’t having a migraine attack. So you may be prone to go to bed early, sleep late in the day, and generally not have the energy to go out and be active. That’s okay. It’s important to take the time for yourself to maintain your health and prevent another attack from happening. You might be concerned about ruining your date’s plans, but you have to put your health first and someone worthy of your time should understand that.
- Be honest. If you aren’t feeling well enough to go out, don’t hesitate to cancel just because you are worried about what your date might think. Explain the situation to them and that you aren’t feeling up for going out and make alternative arrangements to stay in or reschedule the date altogether. Going out when you aren’t feeling your best will likely only cause you to feel even worse.
- Don’t feel guilty. If you have to cancel plans or your date doesn’t understand why you can’t make it to their birthday/niece’s recital/friend’s wedding, don’t be hard on yourself. In most situations, you can’t control when you have a migraine and anyone who cares about you should want you to rest up and feel better.
Importance of Communication
This brings us to the importance of communication. All relationships – romantic or otherwise – require a healthy amount of communication to survive. When you or someone you’re seeing have external factors that can impact you or your relationship, it’s important to make those factors known and discuss the challenges surrounding them.
Migraines, for example, might cause you to be tired, so you may not have a lot of energy to go out and do the things your date wants to do. If you’ve had migraine attack and you need a day to relax and recuperate, take the time you need and be sure to explain the situation to your date to help them understand what you’re going through – you know, so they don’t think you’re blowing them off.
Conclusion
Dating with migraines poses its own unique set of challenges, but that doesn’t mean it’s impossible. Be open to meeting new people in a variety of ways, put your health first, and don’t be afraid to educate your date on your condition.
If they’re accepting, you might have a real keeper! If they aren’t? Well, who needs that kind of person in their life anyways.
